I’m so sorry. Your daughter is so beautiful. Such a devastating loss for you and everyone. I always look forward to your essays, today tears stream down my face reading this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and pain. I do believe there is life after this so it’s not really over she’s just gone to a gentler place and one day you will see her again. God bless you and your wife.
This hit me hard this morning , as my daughter is an addict not only to alcohol but other drugs, just got her in to a rehab again yesterday but she says she doesn't want to stay and she can do it herself. I have been raising her daughter ( my granddaughter ) for several years and we have her pets as well. Sounds like your daughter was a very smart woman but maybe that is why she suffered ,carrying the weight around . I am sorry as to lose a child is the ultimate pain. Thank you for sharing , chronic hope
Yes it is the hardest thing in life, my sincere condolences.
I offer this because some people say the darndest things. I've sent this message to many pastors and priests. A pastor claimed GOD doesn't hear sinners.
I owned a small company, modestly successful, 70% functional at best, and drank to get drunk fast almost every day. This may sound like a sermon but I don't go to church.
GOD knows your daughter and HE knows our struggles.
Millions of children die not baptized or knew about Jesus. Twenty-two veterans commit suicide daily.
An arrogant priest said it was "his duty" to say some may go to purgatory.
Causing someone to grieve is evil. AND they still do it.
GOD KNOWS EVERYONE OF THEM.
Mat. 10:29 What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it.
Everyone may not go to heaven, but it is NOT the church's place to tell anyone that : There is only ONE judge but you, who are you to judge your neighbor James 4:12.
See Ecclesiastes 4:2, Rom. 4:17, Mark 12:25, Acts 26:8 Why should any of you consider it incredible that God raises the dead?
Beyond Mile Marker 80 is a true story. A man in the hospital sees his wife who just died in the car wreck with Jesus. The nurse and doctor see the same thing and travel talking about this miracle to doctors. John 5:21 For just as the Father gives life to those he raises from the dead, so the Son gives life to anyone he wants.
As it turns out Jesus knows each of us 2 Cor. 13:5. We have free will. An acquaintenance, addicted to cocaine said Jesus if you're real help me. Bill saw a flash and heard NEVER WILL I LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU.
SAYING GOD CONTROLS EVERYTHING causes people to blame GOD. I blamed GOD for my wife's Alzheimer’s before I believed. Someone didn't believe but hated GOD because he lost his wife and daughter. They say GOD had a reason for a 4 yo to drown or this or that. A Christian thought GOD caused the fire in L.A. to punish Hollywood. GOD does not cause murder, accidents, children to have cancer, earthquakes, war, Parkinson's, etc.
GOD must wonder if we have any common sense. Things happen in life.
GOD'S LOVE SURPASSES KNOWLEDGE.
*Ken Johnson (YouTube)heard GOD say I LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER, EVER KNOW.
* Richard met God (YouTube) cries talking about GOD’S Unconditional Love. It happened at Cottage several years ago and has a million views.
*I have cried over 300 times feeling loved like a child after doing what Rev. Ken, dec., said was his breakthrough to GOD. I have cried so hard feeling loved that snot came out my nose and I said wait a minute. A friend cried for three days in the service in Greece.
THE HOLY SPIRIT IS REAL. lying beside my wife at night I felt such amazing peace and love come over me I said many times who are you. That was before I believed. I later read Rom. 5:5 GOD pours out HIS Love through HIS Holy Spirit HE gave you.
My heart goes out to you and your family and my prayers for you to be comforted by Gods perfect love. You are not alone. I as well as many have felt your pain and I’m praying that you reach out to the Lord Who knows your sorrow and holds your sweet girl in His hands. 🙏
Please accept my sincere condolences. May G_d bless you and your family. May Maya be gathered into the loving arms of the One who made her and granted her a beautiful soul. Do your best to be positive in your grieving, as you have been in sharing this very intimate suffering.
Mr, Schulte : I wish I had the effective words to give you and your wife comfort in your loss. I find myself crying at your evident pain. Be comforted perhaps in knowing she suffers no more.
Thank you for sharing. And so very sorry for your loss. We will pray for your family.
Our son is also an alcoholic. He has been drinking since he was 18 and is 30 now. He has almost died several times and is normally homeless. He is in rescue mission now for a one year program. Hopefully he stays there and does not leave. It is an insane struggle. I found Alanon helped me a lot.
My daughter also had heroin addiction but has been sober for many years now. Her whole life revolves around NA/AA.
It is a really hard road for all the family and friends involved.
I am so sorry to read about this huge loss in your family and for Bean. Alcoholism is so hard. And the challenge that exists for addicts to accept the help that is needed when they don’t want to, is disheartening and a challenge like no other. So much addiction and mental health challenges result from trauma result from things that happened to individuals in their daily lives, in University and as adult, and that coping mechanism sometimes is the only thing. It’s so easy to let mental health challenges and addictions spiral out of control and go too far. I hope that in sharing your daughter’s struggles, it can help the next person that is in the throes of addiction…. Help them get to an AA or an NA meeting.
In sharing your pain you also share a valuable message. We grieve for you and your wife friend, May the GOD of peace comfort you during this time. Blessings
Henry-thank you for sharing the loss of your daughter to this horrible disease. It wasn't until I went into Vista del Mar that i found out it was a disease; and a spiritual malady. I was blessed by my higher power, willingness and lots of hard work to have the obsession to drink removed. Oct 26 I will celebrate 29 year sober. I am so sorry Maya wasn't gifted with the same grace.
I thank you for sharing your experience and connecting with the many other people who have lived through similar situations. Because I always look for analogies in current real world events, it greatly troubles me that just like we are seeing parents being unable to save their troubled children, we are watching the public being unable to save our troubled society. Berney
I love your articles and wondered why it stopped. Thinking you were on a long vacation. I can’t imagine what you two are going through both of our parents passed away and that was traumatic for us and our 3 grown kids giving us 12 grandchildren. But we cannot fathom losing even one of our children. But alcohol affected our only son who could do it on the job working off shore on the off shore drilling platforms and when he got into huge construction projects with him being the Supervisor. He traveled so his sweet wife never expected he drank on the job. He would get home and say “now I can drink a beer”.
But he was a full on alcoholic and my bride of 47 years and I knew he was. He thought nobody knew but we know his High School pals from Carpinteria High.
He has joined a Harley gang and God only knows what he is into now. But his wife and our middle daughter are close friends and Jim is cheating on her. So Lynn confronted him and he said I am cheating on you so she filed for a divorce.
But my Grandfather was in WW1 from Scotland and was caught in the trenches. The Germans saved him and his best friend and had them serve the officers. But Grampa started drinking a 5 years old and until he died in 1969 when the whole family gathered around and watched him die in San Diego where we all grew up.
I am so sorry that you two had to go through all this.
I know Tim Buckley who started this paper because we are both best friends with Steve Malone, but never met until he wrote an article about Steve.
I am so sorry you have addiction plaguing some of your family members. I have been advocating for people who's Civil Rights are violated PURPOSEFULLY by L.E. UNDER COLOR OF LAW and many of these people are addicts. God bless you. Spirit does not die. Her soul is closer to you now than before. Remember the love and her true spirit. 🙏🏼❤️🤍💙🙏🏼
I’m so sorry. Your daughter is so beautiful. Such a devastating loss for you and everyone. I always look forward to your essays, today tears stream down my face reading this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and pain. I do believe there is life after this so it’s not really over she’s just gone to a gentler place and one day you will see her again. God bless you and your wife.
This hit me hard this morning , as my daughter is an addict not only to alcohol but other drugs, just got her in to a rehab again yesterday but she says she doesn't want to stay and she can do it herself. I have been raising her daughter ( my granddaughter ) for several years and we have her pets as well. Sounds like your daughter was a very smart woman but maybe that is why she suffered ,carrying the weight around . I am sorry as to lose a child is the ultimate pain. Thank you for sharing , chronic hope
May her memory always be a blessing. Thank you for sharing your story.
Hello Henry,
Yes it is the hardest thing in life, my sincere condolences.
I offer this because some people say the darndest things. I've sent this message to many pastors and priests. A pastor claimed GOD doesn't hear sinners.
I owned a small company, modestly successful, 70% functional at best, and drank to get drunk fast almost every day. This may sound like a sermon but I don't go to church.
GOD knows your daughter and HE knows our struggles.
Millions of children die not baptized or knew about Jesus. Twenty-two veterans commit suicide daily.
An arrogant priest said it was "his duty" to say some may go to purgatory.
Causing someone to grieve is evil. AND they still do it.
GOD KNOWS EVERYONE OF THEM.
Mat. 10:29 What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it.
Everyone may not go to heaven, but it is NOT the church's place to tell anyone that : There is only ONE judge but you, who are you to judge your neighbor James 4:12.
See Ecclesiastes 4:2, Rom. 4:17, Mark 12:25, Acts 26:8 Why should any of you consider it incredible that God raises the dead?
Beyond Mile Marker 80 is a true story. A man in the hospital sees his wife who just died in the car wreck with Jesus. The nurse and doctor see the same thing and travel talking about this miracle to doctors. John 5:21 For just as the Father gives life to those he raises from the dead, so the Son gives life to anyone he wants.
As it turns out Jesus knows each of us 2 Cor. 13:5. We have free will. An acquaintenance, addicted to cocaine said Jesus if you're real help me. Bill saw a flash and heard NEVER WILL I LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU.
SAYING GOD CONTROLS EVERYTHING causes people to blame GOD. I blamed GOD for my wife's Alzheimer’s before I believed. Someone didn't believe but hated GOD because he lost his wife and daughter. They say GOD had a reason for a 4 yo to drown or this or that. A Christian thought GOD caused the fire in L.A. to punish Hollywood. GOD does not cause murder, accidents, children to have cancer, earthquakes, war, Parkinson's, etc.
GOD must wonder if we have any common sense. Things happen in life.
GOD'S LOVE SURPASSES KNOWLEDGE.
*Ken Johnson (YouTube)heard GOD say I LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER, EVER KNOW.
* Richard met God (YouTube) cries talking about GOD’S Unconditional Love. It happened at Cottage several years ago and has a million views.
*I have cried over 300 times feeling loved like a child after doing what Rev. Ken, dec., said was his breakthrough to GOD. I have cried so hard feeling loved that snot came out my nose and I said wait a minute. A friend cried for three days in the service in Greece.
THE HOLY SPIRIT IS REAL. lying beside my wife at night I felt such amazing peace and love come over me I said many times who are you. That was before I believed. I later read Rom. 5:5 GOD pours out HIS Love through HIS Holy Spirit HE gave you.
My heart goes out to you and your family and my prayers for you to be comforted by Gods perfect love. You are not alone. I as well as many have felt your pain and I’m praying that you reach out to the Lord Who knows your sorrow and holds your sweet girl in His hands. 🙏
Mr.Schulte,
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I too had lost my father due to Alcoholism.
It took his marriage,his work and his family.
He was homeless,at times.
We tried an intervention as going kids to help him. He was "fine" he said.
The constant doom always followed me of not knowing what will happen next.
We had to call for a wellness check as he was committing suicide. He lived in LA,and my siblings were in different states and cities.
I've been through the same cycles as you and your family.
Mutiple rehabs and put in a coma many times for the DT's.
Going to Alanon helped me to understand that I could live him but couldn't help him.
But a loss of child is even harder,as parents we are to protect them and help them.
I can't imagine your pain.
It's a tragic disease.
I pray for you and your family.
Please accept my sincere condolences. May G_d bless you and your family. May Maya be gathered into the loving arms of the One who made her and granted her a beautiful soul. Do your best to be positive in your grieving, as you have been in sharing this very intimate suffering.
Mr, Schulte : I wish I had the effective words to give you and your wife comfort in your loss. I find myself crying at your evident pain. Be comforted perhaps in knowing she suffers no more.
Thank you for sharing. And so very sorry for your loss. We will pray for your family.
Our son is also an alcoholic. He has been drinking since he was 18 and is 30 now. He has almost died several times and is normally homeless. He is in rescue mission now for a one year program. Hopefully he stays there and does not leave. It is an insane struggle. I found Alanon helped me a lot.
My daughter also had heroin addiction but has been sober for many years now. Her whole life revolves around NA/AA.
It is a really hard road for all the family and friends involved.
I am so sorry to read about this huge loss in your family and for Bean. Alcoholism is so hard. And the challenge that exists for addicts to accept the help that is needed when they don’t want to, is disheartening and a challenge like no other. So much addiction and mental health challenges result from trauma result from things that happened to individuals in their daily lives, in University and as adult, and that coping mechanism sometimes is the only thing. It’s so easy to let mental health challenges and addictions spiral out of control and go too far. I hope that in sharing your daughter’s struggles, it can help the next person that is in the throes of addiction…. Help them get to an AA or an NA meeting.
In sharing your pain you also share a valuable message. We grieve for you and your wife friend, May the GOD of peace comfort you during this time. Blessings
Henry-thank you for sharing the loss of your daughter to this horrible disease. It wasn't until I went into Vista del Mar that i found out it was a disease; and a spiritual malady. I was blessed by my higher power, willingness and lots of hard work to have the obsession to drink removed. Oct 26 I will celebrate 29 year sober. I am so sorry Maya wasn't gifted with the same grace.
KS
I thank you for sharing your experience and connecting with the many other people who have lived through similar situations. Because I always look for analogies in current real world events, it greatly troubles me that just like we are seeing parents being unable to save their troubled children, we are watching the public being unable to save our troubled society. Berney
Dear Henry Schulte and your wife.
I love your articles and wondered why it stopped. Thinking you were on a long vacation. I can’t imagine what you two are going through both of our parents passed away and that was traumatic for us and our 3 grown kids giving us 12 grandchildren. But we cannot fathom losing even one of our children. But alcohol affected our only son who could do it on the job working off shore on the off shore drilling platforms and when he got into huge construction projects with him being the Supervisor. He traveled so his sweet wife never expected he drank on the job. He would get home and say “now I can drink a beer”.
But he was a full on alcoholic and my bride of 47 years and I knew he was. He thought nobody knew but we know his High School pals from Carpinteria High.
He has joined a Harley gang and God only knows what he is into now. But his wife and our middle daughter are close friends and Jim is cheating on her. So Lynn confronted him and he said I am cheating on you so she filed for a divorce.
But my Grandfather was in WW1 from Scotland and was caught in the trenches. The Germans saved him and his best friend and had them serve the officers. But Grampa started drinking a 5 years old and until he died in 1969 when the whole family gathered around and watched him die in San Diego where we all grew up.
I am so sorry that you two had to go through all this.
I know Tim Buckley who started this paper because we are both best friends with Steve Malone, but never met until he wrote an article about Steve.
Dave D
I am so sorry you have addiction plaguing some of your family members. I have been advocating for people who's Civil Rights are violated PURPOSEFULLY by L.E. UNDER COLOR OF LAW and many of these people are addicts. God bless you. Spirit does not die. Her soul is closer to you now than before. Remember the love and her true spirit. 🙏🏼❤️🤍💙🙏🏼