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Wally Hofmann's avatar

What “Helping” Really Means

I volunteered at the Santa Barbara Rescue Mission a few years back as a spiritual mentor. Every Thursday, I’d meet for lunch with Mike, a resident in their recovery program. The program director had a straightforward request for me: “Show him what normal looks like.” I couldn’t help but laugh—“The only thing normal in my life is a setting on my Maytag dryer!”

Over time, those lunches became meaningful for both of us. We grew together—Mike in his recovery and me in understanding what transformation really looks like.

One day, I asked him a question that had been on my mind: “What should I tell people who ask how to help the homeless?” His answer was eye-opening.

“Wally,” he said, “tell them to stop giving us cash, food, or clothes. They think they're helping, but really, they’re just helping us commit slow suicide. Most of us must hit rock bottom before we’re ready to change. Handouts delay that moment. If people want to help, they should support places like the Rescue Mission—places that can help us rebuild our lives.”

Mike’s words stuck with me. They echo a truth that too many communities overlook, especially here in California. Ignoring fundamental laws around camping, vagrancy, and panhandling while offering handouts might feel compassionate, but in reality, it can be deeply damaging. Compassion without accountability doesn’t heal; it prolongs suffering.

That’s why I applaud Utah voters for recognizing a hard truth: homelessness isn’t a housing problem—it's a social problem—and it’s an inhumane way for anyone to live.

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James B's avatar

And the other law Utah changed recently was to eliminate the right to collective bargaining for public employee unions. Seems genius but simply logical.

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